I’m told it takes 21 days to form a habit. Some habits come naturally; others you must cultivate until it feels natural and takes. Healthy habits can form attachments/bonds to people or things.
My habit occurred “accidentally on purpose” and it has much enhanced my life.
About two years ago, I was home and mindlessly channel surfing when I came across this new religious talked show hosted by an African-American woman, with a catchy name, much like Oprah. Bored, I was about to turn when she announced: “Up next, I will be talking to the dynamic founder of an inspirational and empowering Christian Blog for designed for the everyday woman.”
And she didn’t disappointment on the show. Immediately, I read her phenomenal blogs, article and her magazine and I was hooked! Then to my surprise, I found that we shared uncanny similarities which I sure solidified my bond and habit of reading her posts daily: We are both Mothers, Journalists, Bloggers who love our families immensely and have made a conscious habit of putting them first. Her life experiences mirrored mine and I found that very comforting and delightful. I become an avid fan of her factual accounts of the Bible and how she expertly humanized many of the experiences and characters. To do this, she expertly intertwined parables, much like Jesus to tell relatable stories. Additionally, I could appreciate her personal stories about her journeys, the growth, and development of her children and her supportive husband. The thing I loved the most was receiving those habitually Facebook e-blasts that gave me that extra—and much needed inspirational oomph.
Then something went terribly awry.
Mysteriously and without warning, her writing just ceased. No more daily blast or video blogs!!!!! It’s been two months, and her fans are concerned. Is she okay? Is her family okay? Is she sick? Or, is she taking a much-needed break? There are thousands of messages on her page from well-wishers. The tables are now turned: we want to give her inspiration. It is she who needs the inspiration and we—her supporters—are sending floodgates of messages of hope and prayers for her, her family and her circumstances—which we hope aren’t detrimental.
I accept this fact: Even those who minister/counsel get burnt out and need a respite. While strong people give so much to others, sometimes their souls need to be replenished. Whatever the case, I understand. I’ve been there.
Still, in all, I want to encourage her—and others- with these inspiring words from motivational speaker and Life Coach, Drew Canole: “A strong person is not the one who doesn’t cry. A strong person is the one who cries and shed tears for a moment then gets up and fights again.”
In the meantime, I plan to keep up my habitual habit of checking daily on her page for personal/professional updates. I can only imagine when she returns–it will be simply awesome!