Abusers, you have been served: Love isn’t suppose to hurt

Love hurts.

Say it aloud

Love hurts—literally and figuratively—to women who don’t leave the men who profess to love them publicly but beat them privately.

The Huffington Post reported this fact: Every nine seconds in the United States, a woman is being beaten.  Sadly,  the morgues are filled with women who were “loved to death” by:

Their husbands

Their live-in boyfriends

Their “friend”

Their “Baby’s Daddy”

Their common-law-husbands

Their exes

Their roommates

Their jealous stalkers

Their oppressors

Oftentimes, abused women are silenced by their abusers. Women often cite they fear their abusers will retaliate by turning their abuse on their children or family members.  In other cases, women will remain silent so they won’t be blamed for provoking their abusers, who in turn will blame them for causing the abuse.

According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, (NCADV) website, it states:  “Domestic violence is an epidemic affecting individuals in every community, regardless of age, economic status, sexual orientation, gender, race, religion, or nationality. It is often accompanied by emotionally abusive and controlling behavior that is only a fraction of a systematic pattern of dominance and control. Domestic violence can result in physical injury, psychological trauma, and in severe cases, even death. The devastating physical, emotional, and psychological consequences of domestic violence can cross generations and last a lifetime.”

“Is this “Love,” “Is this Love,” “Is it Love” that I’m feeling?

An abused woman who has been emotionally “beat down” believes and will make such statements as “When he beats me, I know he loves me.”

An abuser will manipulate women into “forgiving them in the name of love or to salvage their “loving” relationship.”

During the “honeymoon period,”  the abuser convinces a woman he will change and profusely profess his love…..until the inevitable happens and the cycle starts all over again.

Police officers have stated when they arrest the abuser, the victim will beg them not to take the abuser away. And, it is not       uncommon for the woman to bail out the abuser.

And in the name of love, reconcile with them for various reasons.

Stop! Stop! Stop! In the Name of Love…..

     Stop! Demoralizing our Mothers

Stop! Muting our sisters—biological and our sisters in the struggle

Stop brutalizing  our friends

Stop this very second, tormenting women and terrorizing  children

Stop! I command these abusers  to stop, look, and listen to those who will advocate for women who are be victimized.

Love is not supposed to hurt.

Love should not have to hurt to feel “right or normal.”

Make loving you or someone you know a priorityFor anonymous, confidential help available 24/7, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) now.













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